8 Korean table manners phrases (잘 먹겠습니다 and what comes after)
Korean meals are shared, which gives them a choreography: wait for the eldest, pour for others, finish with a word of thanks. Most of it is unspoken, but a handful of set phrases mark the moments, and saying them is how you show you know the rules.
The eight below run in the order of a meal, from sitting down to the bill. Several use the formal 습니다 ending even between people who otherwise speak casually, because the phrases themselves are fixed.
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잘 먹겠습니다.
jal meokgetseumnida.
Thank you for the meal.
Literally: I will eat well.
Said before the first bite, to whoever cooked or is paying, and to nobody in particular at a restaurant. The 습니다 form is standard here even among people who otherwise speak casually.
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먼저 드세요.
meonjeo deuseyo.
Please, you first.
Nobody lifts chopsticks before the eldest person at the table does. 드세요 is the honorific of 먹다 (to eat), and this line is what you say if the elder is waiting on you out of politeness.
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많이 드세요.
mani deuseyo.
Eat plenty.
Literally: Eat a lot.
The host's line, and the one restaurant staff say when they set the food down (맛있게 드세요 is the other). The reply is 네, 잘 먹겠습니다.
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한 잔 받으세요.
han jan badeuseyo.
Let me pour you a drink.
Literally: Please receive a glass.
You pour for others and never for yourself. Pour and receive with two hands for anyone older, and when drinking with elders, turn your head slightly away. Refills only go into an empty glass.
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반찬 더 주세요.
banchan deo juseyo.
More side dishes, please.
Side dishes are refilled free at almost every Korean restaurant, so asking is expected. Name the one you want, 김치 더 주세요, or press the call button (호출벨) on the table.
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배불러요. 더는 못 먹겠어요.
baebulleoyo. deoneun mot meokgesseoyo.
I'm full. I can't eat any more.
Literally: Belly is full. More, I cannot eat.
Hosts keep offering; this is how you stop them without offence. Leaving a little food is fine, and 못 먹겠어요 with 겠 sounds gentler than a flat 못 먹어요.
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잘 먹었습니다.
jal meogeotseumnida.
Thank you, that was a good meal.
Literally: I ate well.
The closing pair to 잘 먹겠습니다, said as you put down your chopsticks and again to staff on the way out. Forgetting it is the one table-manners slip Koreans do notice.
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제가 살게요.
jega salgeyo.
I'll get this.
Literally: I will buy.
The elder or the person who did the inviting usually pays, and the junior buys coffee afterwards. Among friends the bill is often split (더치페이, from Dutch pay), so if someone insists with this line, let them.
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Two of these are a matched pair: 잘 먹겠습니다 before and 잘 먹었습니다 after, the only difference being 겠 (will) against 었 (did). Learn them together and you have the two moments every Korean meal begins and ends on.